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So I’ve posted about odds and ends of various subjects I like to research, but at last! Finally I will be sharing with you all some of the knowledge I have obtained throughout the years from my musical education in schooling as well as from my own research!

Being an independent artist branching out working with others and finally getting the ball rolling on a more professional level, I really wanted to get some important info to help others like me. There’s a lot more than just picking up the phone and calling a venue or even writing a song and recording it. Ever wondered about the legal side? I will be sharing some in depth information that sadly isn’t so ‘mainstream’ and can indeed help the developing musician in today’s industry. There’s so many deals, so many contracts and legal paperwork that new artists aren’t aware of , that I want to bring to the light so they don’t get duped by businesses.

If you have any certain questions or subjects you would like for me to discuss in specific, please comment on this post! I will start to get to writing the first few soon here, but I would really like to be able to cover and discuss your specific questions ! Don’t hesitate! Even if , on another note, wish to collaborate music wise- feel free to message me!

Rock on and I will be talking to you all soon!

xxx

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Happy Valentine’s Day, Love Birds!

Since I made a little post on some eccentric pick up lines that will definitely be unique and make your little horror honey squirm with delight in my section, ‘Mortician’s Coroner’, I thought I would address a topic that’s gonna go deep into my mind thoughts- and it was getting a bit quiet in the ‘Inside My Mind’ section, anyways!

The tattoo curse.

The myth.

The legend.

BUSTED!!!

My lovey and I were being all cute and I , of course, decided to be my weird little self and flirt with him (2 years together, and we still flirt! Never give it up!) by saying we should get butt tattoos sometime. Then after a little chuckle we did go into serious conversation about sometime in the future getting tattooed together. All of a sudden, my romantic gears come to a screeching halt as I gasp and utter ever so softly….”B-But….what about the curse?” Totally oblivious to my outburst of silence, he asks me what is the curse.

LE GASP!! YOU DON’T KNOW ABOUT -THE- CURSE?!

That curse you were told about the first time you locked eyes on someone, or got your first piece of art on your body…The curse that if dare you chance it, it will curse you and your relationship will be doomed the moment the machine’s needle hits your body?! THAT CURSE?!

After a few breaths and brain functioning again in a logical manner, I decide to try out mythbusting this lochness monster.

Let’s look at our evidence so we can go full blown 8 Stages of FBI Analysis I learned in Sociology.

Alright, so couples get a tattoo as a sign of their love towards each other….there’s nothing in the ink that is cursed by a hoodoo artist or the artist themselves..check…tattoos are a form of commit– WAIT! CASE OPEN-SHUT!

That C word.

Commitment.

Tattoos are a form of commitment, as is love. The real love and real commitment stays. For those who are scared of commitment or this level of commitment- that’s what makes them part. It’s the sudden realization knowing they are now tied down with battleship chains to this marker and their partner, and if it’s true- they will stay….if not, they will run for the hills! (Music puns, all the way!)

That being said, have a long hard talk with your partner to see where you stand – coverups can get expensive! If you know what your love and you have is genuine, or you want a friendship tattoo,etc. Think about the long run…Just make sure you’re both on the same page and not in a drunken stupor going in to a walk in parlour! (Ps- Not a good idea to be intoxicated while being inked, see a latter post of mine on the do’s and don’t’s of tattooing).

Be awesome , love with 110% of you! If you have any cute Valentine’s Day pics, stories, or tattoos- please share!! All the best,

xxx

Even math says ‘x=y’ …like WHY the hell is that damn EX keep coming up into situations?!

They are not part of the formulae to your present day. Nope.

So here lies the question… WHY do they keep showing up? They’re like when you’re happy..you got an event the next day, you got your nails done, got your clothes all fresh, but when you wake up the next morning… BAM! A big nasty zit is like, ‘HOLA! I CAME TO CRASH YOUR PARTY!’. And that my friends, is what having your ex involved still in your life is like. To that I say: Here lies the past…Rest in peace. *Throw salt* I BANISH THEE, DEMONIC PRESENCE!

Luckily, My past isn’t involved anymore in my present going-on’s. We ended on mutual terms for them both and they respect the idea of moving on with respect. To them: Thank you. Not saying that I hate them at all, no, we have respect. But…we just don’t go about intruding and getting all friendly-friendly in the other person’s lives.

That being said, I don’t get why exes are all up in some people’s lives still with the hugs and cute pet names FULLY KNOWING that it would make themselves uncomfortable if they were put in that same situation. The person no longer is with you. Just give it the fuck up. Got a cute name for the person you were with , but you fucked it up and they are now happy with a way better person? PUT THAT SHIT TO REST. You look pathetic. Clearly, they are not interested in you because you blew the chances being an assclown, so just move on and find a new soul to torment.

Sorry. I got a bit nuts there with the ranting. I just really despise exes trying to get all cutesy and manipulative while their previous partner is happy in a new relationship. The universe attracts what you put out…and honey, you’re putting your energy to waste.

Common topic with this subject…did you notice how it’s mostly the male partner’s exes that are the shit disturbers? I mean, being a female, I don’t actually have ANY run-ins with mine. If crazy shit aligns and we see each other, we will be like ‘hi, bye, kiss my ass, etc.’ then leave. Whereas if an ex female from your male companion comes up to him it’s all like, ‘HUGS! *INSERT PARTNER’S NAME HERE IN ALL CAPS SIGNIFYING THEIR PATHETIC SCREECHING* , OMG! My snookie-wookums! How are you? OMGGGGG remember wheeeeeennnnn _____?! *Eyelash flutters* xoxoxo ‘.

Cut that shit. Ew. Just ew.

To me, that’s totally disrespectful as hell to still be like that. Just be normal. Say hi. Stop with the eye sex and cutesie shit reserved for that person’s partner. How would you like it if someone did that to your guy? Make you shudder and get pissed? Good. That’s how you’re making that poor dame feel. Get some respect for you and others. Just move on. Keep swimming…..into the mouth of a kraken.

I understand though that sometimes male exes can be like that when I was talking to others. Happens a lot less, but still crazy not cool to do. Just don’t do it, anyone.

That being said here is my list of 10 kinda guidelines & summing up in regards to this issue:

  1. You can still be friends. Just realize you don’t have the same title and got to respect the new person. If you can be respectful to them, they will respect you in return. You’ll get so much respect for doing that and you won’t look trashy.
  2. Move on. You’ll only make yourself upset if all you focus on is trying to manipulate your way to try to get them back. Chances are if they are super happy, they won’t even give you the time of a wet dream. That being said, don’t waste your energy putting that into the universe and instead find your sexy stud muffin or sexy kitten and you’ll feel soooo much better.
  3. Stop. Screeching. The. Person’s. Name. This ties in with #1. You look pathetic and you do not have that ‘role’ anymore. Also, respect.
  4. Messaging. With Facebook and cellular phones being at our call all the time, yes that brings the temptation to drunk or sober message your ex-sweetheart. DON’T DO IT. No, they do not want to see a pic of you being cute or sending a cute message. Nor does their partner. You know that “R” word mentioned sooo much here? Respect? Yeah. Get some.
  5. Gestures. Body talk is the second half of the talky-talk. The eye sex, boob squash, bite lip, hair flip bullshit….STOP IT, HO. Giggle…..
  6. How your family ties in (if you’re the ex causing the BS). Just like with yourself, have your family also respect your ex-hunny and his new hunny. Stop trying to get them to hornswaggle him/her back and bring up those memories that makes the new lover feel like they’re going to cry from the breaking of their heart.
  7. Leave the past in the past. It’s got no spot for the future. No one wants that heavy baggage full of trash that is preventing them from becoming a hollywood star. Let it go and shine. Yes, even you EX. Shine like a diamond and attract someone who is meant to be your second half because CLEARLY..the past didn’t work out. Learn. Live and learn from that.
  8. A shade of bitch looks awful on anyone. Resting bitch face, being a bitch…those were just fads. Not something to be proud of. Be the better person and rise above. Being able to let shit go and make a good path for yourself is a look of pure, utter brilliance on everyone!
  9. Don’t be a bitter bitch (continued). Your soul mate is wandering somewhere while you’re trying to change what isn’t meant. This is the universe telling you your soulmate is out there and NOT the past person.
  10. Last but not least, let me re-iterate this most important point : RESPECT!!!! Have respect all around and things will work out fine and dandy in the end. Without respect, how the hell do you ever think someone will respect you? We all deserve respect. But as in anything, it must be earned and not just handed to your ass on a golden platter. Earn it. When you earn that respect, it feels like you’ve won the lottery of life.

 

All things considered, this is a really touchy topic that we all have gone through in our lives let it be with our partner’s exes, our own…or maybe you’re one of these evil nasty exes? In the comments below, please do not hesitate to tell me your thoughts on this subject, your stories and comments are always appreciated!

 

Rock on and don’t be an ass xx

Peripeteia : The turning point/moment of realization.

Gotta love it when you have finally hit the turning point where you can rescue your damsel-in-distress ass, but sometimes it hits ya like a damn freight train.

My dear friend, Martin Atkins (You rock!),  has taught me a few things about the music & art industry:

  1. Welcome to the Music Industry- you’re fucked!
  2. Get the fuck out of bed!   –and–
  3. Sometimes you have to give a little freebie to reel in people to start buying your works and expanding your fan-base.

Truer words have never been spoken. Martin is like the punk-rock Buddha. (Follow him on twitter at @marteeeen – You won’t regret it and you’ll learn a lot from his magical-ness!) 

I look up to the advice because let’s face it…it’s a dog-eat-dog world out there and you don’t wanna come out as the wiener dog versus that huge rottweiler- YOU BE THE ROTTWEILER! The giving away freebies to reel in your fishies definitely works in your favour until you come across the gannets who just want to take,take,take and no give. 

Sometimes these said takers aren’t even in your fanbase. They just want your business to make a profit for them and to hell with you!

This I find totally assholic.

Want me to do a doodle for your tattoo or collab with you? Sure. It will provide exposure. Keep wanting free stuff with no giving back just so you can gain and make a profit? Sorry, hun. I don’t roll that way.

I find it truly hilarious when other entrepreneurs who clam helping other artists and not giving away things for free, when they ask others to do their deeds for them for nothing. Right on, ACDC: Dirty Deeds, Done Dirt Cheap.

Just like with anything, the artists/entrepreneurs providing the services put a lot of time, skill, rehearsing, and money into what they do. Lot of money and time spent to hone their skills. So to take it for granted repeatedly and not pay a lick of a cent while you rake in the dough, is beyond awful. Hate to see karma when she comes a-knockin’ at your door!

Makeup Artists (MUAs) see this a lot, too. Even though I’m not a MUA, I do take pride and put a lot of effort into buying good products for my skin/makeup. Most of the times it means you’re paying a bit more for your makeup. My eyeliner costs $20, Foundation $40, Mascara $20, and my eyeshadow palettes were like $55 each, just for an example. Have you even seen the cost for brushes or fake eyelashes? Some eyelashes (kudos to those who know the sale websites for these!) run from 7.99-11.99 in stores for those without access to the sales sites. Brushes, not including the whole set, can run from 40-100$! Now let’s see….asking the MUA to provide their service and use their tools for free? Trust me, even if you tell them, ‘Hey, I only have 20$, is that ok?’ they still appreciate it because you are at least helping replace some of the equipment used as well as the dedication they’ve put into their craft.

Now let’s turn the tables.

For those who are constantly taking and not giving, let’s see ….

Imagine someone saying, ‘Hey! Can I have ________ that you’ve spent soooo much time and money on for free?! Good exposure!’ and they keep coming back for it…Imagine how you would feel…

Sucks, doesn’t it?

Us musicians are constantly getting kicked in the balls over free stuff.

As I said, I will throw out the free download, or pay-what-you-can, or contests so that way there’s giving and getting, which is good and will lead to more profits. But you will get people asking for waaaay much more than what you can give.

Asking a musician to write / compose something for you and not giving a lick of credit/acknowledgement or pay is actually breaking one of the local SOCAN policies and YES…you can get charged. In general, being a fucking weasel like that is just being an awful human being. 

Also doing photography I have seen this ‘Can you shoot ______ (insert event here)___ for free for like 7-9 hours? it’ll give you good exposure!’ Maybe if you’re nice and at least give them some amount they might tack on some surprises, but holy shit the time spent…the expensive cameras and lenses, not forgetting the software and materials to print your work takes a lot! 

All what I’m saying is….take some consideration into what you ask of people. Some won’t mind a small project where you both will come out successful, but if it’s all one sided gain-wise….that’s not cool.

Give a little respect and get a little respect. Let’s all co-exist with each others’ awesomeness and let’s support each other!

As I sit here in my room with mild insomnia lightly biting at my toes, I can’t help but admire the beautiful art I have on my skin as I moisturize. 

To be completely honest, I think it’s the first time I ever used a description like that about my skin. I never actually was happy with how I looked. 

I mean, throughout the years I was never one of ‘those’ girls that people wanted. Yeah, sure, I was nerdy-ish…who wasn’t as a kid or through the awkward teen years? Like I never knew that when you were that age you were supposed to be rustling your makeup-ed feathers as a mating call, ha! Even now, after just exiting the teen years and approaching my 22nd birthday in the summer of 2016, and leaving that awkward stage….I still am not fully satisfied. I still see that kid standing there in the mirror looking back at me and I can’t see what I’ve become. Dysmorphia? Maybe. 

I just was never able to see my body as the beautiful piece of art that it was supposed to be seen as. When people said I have confidence in the performing arts, I can’t help but say ‘Thanks…” while mumbling under my breath ‘thanks for the compliment on my acting skills…’ 

The thing that people do not understand is that you can tell someone a person is beautiful until you keel over…in the end, it comes down to the person to see it themselves. In my case, still, it is hard.

Not only until the past few months have I started to actually grow to like my body little-by-little. Seeing how it’s  actually a beautiful canvas has started to help me see myself in a good light. The artwork on my body has helped me see that ‘hold on a minute….I actually am a piece of art….nothing is wrong with my canvas’… 

That being said, I can not wait to go in and get a crow flying on my arm. Crows also represent change and so far the art on my body reveals both the ups and downs and how I’m overcoming them and turning them into something great on me. Sometimes it takes some time in the dark to be able to truly appreciate the beauty that resides shining in the light surrounding you every day.

If any of you ever need someone to talk to when your demons decide to come out to play and you need a listening ear, or if you would like to share any of your tattoos or stories..please feel free to comment or shoot me an e-mail.

Love you all and don’t let anyone dim out your amazing shine. Glow, baby, glow.

xox

From day 1 we program ourselves to always be looking towards the next milestone event and we tend to often surpass the smallest things in life unintentionally. We don’t mean to, but it’s just the way we are.

Sometimes when working -we are all guilty of this, myself included- we just are biting at the bit for the next break..the next big thing in our lives we desire, instead of living In the moment and taking the time to appreciate the small things as well.

When we are young..we can’t wait to get older so we can go to clubs, go drinking, get a cat, get married, no more school, have our own kids..basically wishing our lives away instead of noticing the beauty around us up until we are on our own death beds, and realize  we wished our lives away and now you’re dying to live again and take in those missed moments.

Love with all your heart to the greatest amount everyday and learn to enjoy the smallest things that go along with the bigger perks and milestones.

Peace. Love. Blessed be xox