Posts Tagged ‘equality’

Peripeteia : The turning point/moment of realization.

Gotta love it when you have finally hit the turning point where you can rescue your damsel-in-distress ass, but sometimes it hits ya like a damn freight train.

My dear friend, Martin Atkins (You rock!),  has taught me a few things about the music & art industry:

  1. Welcome to the Music Industry- you’re fucked!
  2. Get the fuck out of bed!   –and–
  3. Sometimes you have to give a little freebie to reel in people to start buying your works and expanding your fan-base.

Truer words have never been spoken. Martin is like the punk-rock Buddha. (Follow him on twitter at @marteeeen – You won’t regret it and you’ll learn a lot from his magical-ness!) 

I look up to the advice because let’s face it…it’s a dog-eat-dog world out there and you don’t wanna come out as the wiener dog versus that huge rottweiler- YOU BE THE ROTTWEILER! The giving away freebies to reel in your fishies definitely works in your favour until you come across the gannets who just want to take,take,take and no give. 

Sometimes these said takers aren’t even in your fanbase. They just want your business to make a profit for them and to hell with you!

This I find totally assholic.

Want me to do a doodle for your tattoo or collab with you? Sure. It will provide exposure. Keep wanting free stuff with no giving back just so you can gain and make a profit? Sorry, hun. I don’t roll that way.

I find it truly hilarious when other entrepreneurs who clam helping other artists and not giving away things for free, when they ask others to do their deeds for them for nothing. Right on, ACDC: Dirty Deeds, Done Dirt Cheap.

Just like with anything, the artists/entrepreneurs providing the services put a lot of time, skill, rehearsing, and money into what they do. Lot of money and time spent to hone their skills. So to take it for granted repeatedly and not pay a lick of a cent while you rake in the dough, is beyond awful. Hate to see karma when she comes a-knockin’ at your door!

Makeup Artists (MUAs) see this a lot, too. Even though I’m not a MUA, I do take pride and put a lot of effort into buying good products for my skin/makeup. Most of the times it means you’re paying a bit more for your makeup. My eyeliner costs $20, Foundation $40, Mascara $20, and my eyeshadow palettes were like $55 each, just for an example. Have you even seen the cost for brushes or fake eyelashes? Some eyelashes (kudos to those who know the sale websites for these!) run from 7.99-11.99 in stores for those without access to the sales sites. Brushes, not including the whole set, can run from 40-100$! Now let’s see….asking the MUA to provide their service and use their tools for free? Trust me, even if you tell them, ‘Hey, I only have 20$, is that ok?’ they still appreciate it because you are at least helping replace some of the equipment used as well as the dedication they’ve put into their craft.

Now let’s turn the tables.

For those who are constantly taking and not giving, let’s see ….

Imagine someone saying, ‘Hey! Can I have ________ that you’ve spent soooo much time and money on for free?! Good exposure!’ and they keep coming back for it…Imagine how you would feel…

Sucks, doesn’t it?

Us musicians are constantly getting kicked in the balls over free stuff.

As I said, I will throw out the free download, or pay-what-you-can, or contests so that way there’s giving and getting, which is good and will lead to more profits. But you will get people asking for waaaay much more than what you can give.

Asking a musician to write / compose something for you and not giving a lick of credit/acknowledgement or pay is actually breaking one of the local SOCAN policies and YES…you can get charged. In general, being a fucking weasel like that is just being an awful human being. 

Also doing photography I have seen this ‘Can you shoot ______ (insert event here)___ for free for like 7-9 hours? it’ll give you good exposure!’ Maybe if you’re nice and at least give them some amount they might tack on some surprises, but holy shit the time spent…the expensive cameras and lenses, not forgetting the software and materials to print your work takes a lot! 

All what I’m saying is….take some consideration into what you ask of people. Some won’t mind a small project where you both will come out successful, but if it’s all one sided gain-wise….that’s not cool.

Give a little respect and get a little respect. Let’s all co-exist with each others’ awesomeness and let’s support each other!

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Double Standards.

The thing that makes close to the top of my list for things that really peeve me off. Mostly due to the fact that it is completely un-necessary, plus it is a completely wrong thing to do.

I am a very down-to-earth, do unto others kinda gal. Sadly, I think I might have been walking through a pink tinted haze when it comes to the issue I’m about to address. It more so hurts and upsets me more than it fills me with anger. 

Religion and Spirituality. 

Double Standards. 

Yup. I know, I know, a chorus of ‘You should’ve known!’ are about to come raining in on me like acid rain. But for real…I never wanted to believe in my heart that society could really and truly be that awful and disrespectful. 

As known, I am a Wiccan. I have actually started to come out as a Wiccan the past year and a bit due to how society reacts towards those who have a different way of thinking versus the higher majority. After leaving my timid-ness behind, I started to wear my pentacle of the Goddess with pride and start to adorn my room with my Wiccan pieces. Bless my family, they did not judge me and for those that did they actually leant an open ear for me to explain what Wicca is- NOT what media portrays it as. My Grandmother – who I like to consider one of my close friends- did not understand the concept, like others, and assumed it was occult and I worshipped Satan and stuff that was completely opposite of what Wicca actually is. I am very grateful that she actually let me explain to her what being Wiccan actually entails and then that helped shed a whole new light. No, we do not recruit others or try to conform them; all we ask is to not be ignorant and not to believe the false connotations the media has given us. So after ‘coming out’ as Wiccan and being accepted by family and friends, I sadly came to a very disheartening road bump.

The rest of society.

Where I live at is not exactly what one would classify as a bible belt due to quite a fair amount of others being Wiccan/Pagan in the municipality -they to are kinda hush hush as well due to how people react to us- but a bit more than 3/4 of the people residing in my town are all seniors (some families, middle aged as well) that are church- fanatics. Not saying that all church people are mean towards us here, but there are some rare ones who are very kind to us , and to that- I thank you for being so kind.

It’s wrong when you can’t wear your Pentagram/ Pentacle without someone taking offence or it having to be removed because it might make someone uneasy. 

What about my feelings?

Ever think that maybe I feel uneasy seeing church people walk in with their prayer beads and crosses because I know that they will judge me for wearing my own? I could easily use that for my defence but I’d rather not. I respect them. That’s the difference.

I respect that they find comfort in their beliefs and I would never ask them to remove something of value like that. That is just plain wrong. I would never ask someone to do that and make them hide something they should be able to wear proudly and take pride in.

We are not better than anyone else, we are all equals. We should all look at each other in a light of respect and try our best to understand each other and our differences. Even when we come across someone different than ourselves, instead of being ignorant instead we should take a small portion of our time to learn about them. 

That being said, be kind to one another. Do not judge. Do not strip away someone’s colours and try to paint them with a different brush. We all have something to offer and to teach one another, only if we open our mind and hearts to it.

Blessed be )O(

Kind of a follow-up post to my previous one lies in the wreckage of my poor, confused mind.

I absolutely adored Sociology when I was in schooling and I so stand behind equality and human rights. It makes me question though when I see extremists take things a bit to far and claim to be someone they are not. 

For example, radically extreme people who are claiming to be feminists. It’s cool to see girls and guys standing up for equal rights but some are just missing the actual point by leaps and bounds.

Feminism is about equality and being treated as an equal for social rights, economic rights, as well as cultural rights for women. It is borderline with the rights of equalists; both strive towards the goal of both sides being equal- not one superior or inferior to the other.

Sadly though, some people nowadays don’t see it that way. Instead of creating positive equalism on both sides, it’s now completely one side or the other.

Here’s a suggestion: STOP FUCKING GENDER- ROLING THE SHIT OUTTA THINGS!

You are not going to go any further by bashing one side or the other and putting one or the other in the spotlight while claiming to be a feminist. That’s kind of diminishing the point of equalism that you’re looking for.

Another thing…

One of my good friends was shit on by a load of people who claim to be ‘feminists’ when all she asked was for people to be seen as people. Equals. Not one superior to the other. No labelling posts or people because of their gender. Now THAT is finding true equality for both. Once you start seeing a person for their personality- not their sex. That’s how you will get equality.

Please be kind and do research before you bash someone . We are all on this planet together and should treat each other with respect and not be assholes.

xxx

Alrighty, time to let some inner rage out on the interweb about some intergalactic craziness. 

Have I got you interested or intrigued? Ok. I’ll stop with the ‘In’s”

Recently what sparked this oh-so-glorious little rage-osity rant were a little compilation of numerous posts about the new Star Wars movie.

We first saw the whole new rise of the revealed black storm trooper. THEN we saw a female lead. You know what we also saw? Some hidden sexism and racism arising from the shit piles.

To me, growing up, I was taught to not see in colour, but to see people for people. I do not judge people for their ethnicity, sexuality, gender,etc. I saw this talented man and woman as fantastic actors that filled out the roles that were sought out for the script. To me, they are people. They are equal. 

It really doesn’t matter if you chose someone who had a penis or vagina for a certain role. If they are a great actor- they deserve it. It doesn’t matter if you’re black or white or purple with fucking green polka dots. You know what? You’re still a good actor. 

Instead of focusing on the primary and most important focal point of the new Star Wars movie, people are turning it into a heated subject over what genitalia someone has, and how we should completely balance the gender roles.

If you take a step and look at it like I have, coming from a neutral stand point and seeing people for people, you will realize that by people bringing up these touchy subjects, we are still promoting segregation, in a sense. 

IF we choose to strive towards full gender and race/ethnicity equality, we will stop seeing people for what their reproductive organs and flesh colour are. IF we truly want people to be equal…stop mentioning the differences. Only you are continuing to segregate one group from another.

We should all be able to live on this amazing Mother Earth as one. Blessed be and be kind to your fellow brothers and sisters this holiday season. 

Ps- Happy Belated Yule / Winter Solstice to my fellow witches. xox